Deep down I’m a nice person, who will ride and die for our friendship and help you out as much as I can. If you haven’t gotten to that point in knowing me, then you are irrelevant.
immigrant parents remind you directly and indirectly that failure isn’t an option in a million different ways.
You must learn her.
You must know the reason why she is silent. You must trace her weakest spots. You must write to her. You must remind her that you are there. You must know how long it takes for her to give up. You must be there to hold her when she is about to.
You must love her because many have tried and failed. And she wants to know that she is worthy to be loved, that she is worthy to be kept.
And, this is how you keep her.
Junot Díaz, This Is How You Lose Her (via waxenneat)